“To become a spectator of one’s own life is to escape the suffering of life.”
— Oscar Wilde
As many of us were growing up, we were told the importance of being participants in life and not spectators. Many of us indeed feel the need to act, to achieve to press ever onward and this is a good thing for the most part. There is equally a time to be still, to meditate and to watch. It is so easy to get caught up in the drama of day to day life and to even actively promote the drama. We treat as important situations that will be relatively meaningless a day later never mind in any kind of long run. We get angry when someone cuts us off in traffic. Do we actively promote this anger and either give the other driver the finger or start an altercation or do we just watch from our center and not let it affect us. When a family member is in a bad mood, do we take it on, get into a nice rousing argument where years of buried resentments emerge or do we just see it as what it is. Watching what goes on around us and knowing when to act and when to be still has to be one of the most important life and spiritual skills that there is. This has been a hard won lesson to me and one that needs refreshing often.
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