“If you want to shrink something,
You must first allow it to expand.
If you want to get rid of something,
You must first allow it to flourish.
If you want to take something,
You must first allow it to be given.
This is called the subtle perception
Of the way things are.”
~Tao Te Ching
It’s nigh impossible to get rid of a bad habit of which we are unaware. It is only by realizing that the habit exists, letting it manifest and then playing it out that we can truly transcend it. If we restrict or repress it, then it will find subtler ways of manifesting. This among other things is one of the problems with enforced political correctness.
If we are sad or angry, clamping down on our emotions will not help us get over them. If anything, it just builds up the problem for another day. It is only by letting ourselves feel the emotion in its fullness and doing it mindfully that we can get past it.
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