Don’t make assumptions – Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
–Don Miguel Ruiz
Thanks to Vajra and Tammy two friends for bringing up an interesting discussion about assumptions
What assumptions do we make? Without assumptions how do we examine anything? Don’t problems arise a lot more often when we take our assumptions as facts?I would say that most of our insights into life are mainly assumptions. I guess my point is that what is any of our world views but assumptions? If Fuller was right that the universe is an asynchronoumously apprehended phenomenon than we cannot ‘get it’ all at once and some assumptions are inevitable. I value it highly when someone not only questions and tests every assumption they make but encourages the others around them to do the same. If I honestly seek to understand and integrate other views of the universe how can I resist testing any assumptions I have against those of any and all comers and testing their views against mine?
I love knowing so little, if anything for sure. It means that I have a lot to learn with never an end in sight…
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Totemic by G A Rosenberg
Red Yellow Vortex by G A Rosenberg
“There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally”
— Don Miguel Ruiz
So little of what most people do or say has to do with others. Most of us tend to have shall we call an inward focus. Many inner voices, fears and dreams all clamouring to be heard or to at least be the focus with which we relate to the world. If all this goes on in our head why would we find it different for others?
So next time someone says something that causes you pain or makes you angry or upset consider whom they are addressing or which filter it comes from It also helps to realize that what is causing that reaction in you tends to be one of your voices or filters as well.
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Infinite by G A Rosenberg
“If you live in a past dream, you don’t enjoy what is happening right now because you will always wish it to be different than it is. There is no time to miss anyone or anything because you are alive. Not enjoying what is happening right now is living in the past and being only half alive. This leads to self pity, suffering and tears.”
― Miguel Ruiz
There are points in our life that stick out, usually ones with strong emotion either strong pain or strong bliss. Either one of them can be traps. We relive when someone hurt us or sometimes even worse when we hurt someone else when we could have avoided it or possibly a sublime moment with someone loved that can never be repeated. Notice I don’t say it can’t be surpassed, merely that it can’t be repeated. We relive those memories (funny how they lose fidelity with repetition a lot like old cassette tapes) over and over either trying to find the sense, what we did right or what we did wrong. Somewhere along the way we find ourselves forgetting to live.
I remember breaking up with someone whose company I really enjoyed. We had a great time together. We could talk for hours and enjoyed many of the same things. Even the sex was good. That person could not live up to the intensity of a relationship I had before that was an exercise in self-destruction that had left me wounded. I hadn’t yet given myself permission to move on. Luckily I’ve since grown up quite a bit. Still tho, I work at living in the present. To be honest, I kind of prefer it this way.
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Deserted Highway by G A Rosenberg
Fractal Net by G A Rosenberg