“The strangest and most fantastic fact about negative emotions is that people actually worship them.”
Sometimes we become our wounds. We identify ourselves as survivors of abuse or survivors of depression and then see everything through that lens. Some things are very difficult to let go and I am not suggesting that abuse is not dramatic. However when we feel the need decades later to bring it up in every conversation (and I have done this with past hurts of my own) than we have grown too attached to the memory and the reactions that people have to them. Is this due to a desire to heal or is it due to some kind of benefit that we derive from the reaction that other people have to our plight? Is it possible we identify so much with our anger or depression that fear that letting go of the past will fundamentally damage our very structure?
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