Manners – Social Lubrication

“A dying culture invariably exhibits personal rudeness. Bad manners. Lack of consideration for others in minor matters. A loss of politeness, of gentle manners, is more significant than is a riot…”
― Robert A. Heinlein

 

It seems to me that there is a difference between intentional and unintentional rudeness. When people are rude intentionally most often they are trying to make a point. “I feel anger towards you and want you to know it.”, “I am afraid or uneasy and I don’t want you to know it” or “I find you ridiculous and / or self important and I want to show it.” Each of these three show a special consideration for the object of their rudeness. A fourth case of intentional rudeness would be “I am demonstrating our relative importance by showing I can be rude to you.” This also in its way demonstrates consideration. In each case it is a form of communication, perhaps dubious in execution but shows awareness of the other person.
Unintentional rudeness however is almost the opposite. It involves being so preoccupied with whatever one is doing that the other person does not even register. It could be as simple as a teenager texting on their cell phone to a clerk in a store, being so busy modelling or hoping for a particular type of customer to approach them that everyone else gets dismissed. This is the type of rudeness that I believe Mr. Heinlein referred to and is becoming more and more prevalent in our culture. We have lost touch with the niceties. Everything from inquiring about how the person you are talking to is doing to holding doors for another, even down to saying please and thank you. Since most of us are raised with these niceties drummed into us, it causes a certain amount of cognitive dissonance every time we avoid them. It definitely involves a loss of empathy and awareness that is crucial if we are ever to approach maintaining this world as a fit place to live.
Blessings, G

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Quote of the Day – November 26 2011

 ‎”Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill.”
–Buddha

Thinking about language and how some words have become so charged that people when hearing them will react to the words used rather than what is being said. Some words seem to break communication stopping intelligent discourse dead in its tracks just by uttering them. These words (or terms or images (see Hitler or the Swastika) over time seem to have had their meaning so charged both positively and negatively that once you say them, you take on the charge and depending on how the person hearing them wishes to magnetize or polarize themselves, they will react. Examples of these words: socialism, communism, democracy, new world order, religion, Hitler, nazi. I go back and forth whether to add the words love and spiritual to this list. I know that there are many others that can be added. In my more paranoid (or lucid depending on  whom you talk to) moments I wonder at the social engineering that have resulted in these words being unable to be heard.
By demonizing communism during the cold war and then making sure that anyone who warned against it was seen as extreme or crazy (the term McCarthyism becoming synonymous with witch hunts) and miscarriages of justice, the nwo suckers make it very easy to discredit people like Charlotte Iserbyt

Another method to manipulate people with language:

A) Demonize a word (whether or not the word defines something evil or not is irrelevant at this point)
i.e. Communism in the 50’s. Was the Soviet form of social collectivism masquerading as Communism a bad thing undoubtedly as it becomes a very easy tool for manipulating / exploiting the masses

B) Once the word is demonized, have someone , in a position of power like Senator McCarthy et al take it to insane degrees (seeing communists everywhere accessing everyone on the smallest amount of evidence of being communist. and then persecuting them (i.e. the blacklisting in Hollywood

C) at this point at a fairly slow rate, you can bring in whatever you have been demonizing, calling it by other names (social justice, oneness, democracy in action (anyone who points out that this is actually socialist collectivism or what passed for Communism / Socialism will be seen as insane, People will not react in a logical thoughtful way to what they have to say, they will react to the use of the word branding the person using it in all kinds of unpleasant ways missing the point of anything they have to say

Sound familiar?
Blessings,
GAR

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