”Self-deceit is the hardest habit to break cuz it tells us the we ain’t self-deceived.”
— Jed McKenna
It occurred to me today that Love is the opposite of Pity. hen we pity someone we disempower them. “That’s ok, how could you have done differently, these things happen.” Love empowers “You’re better than that and you’ve shown it in the past. You will show it again”
Pity: “There there, its not your fault. you were the victim”
Love: “Do you see your responsibility in the situation?”
Even the body language of the two. When we feel pity, we tend to stroke someone’s head from above or pat their shoulder (effectively topping them)
In Love we give a direct hug directly on level with each other.
I would rather have one friend who loves me enough with the truth than one hundred feeling sorry for me and encouraging me to feel sorry for myself.
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OM Eye Mandala (George Takai) by G A Rosenberg