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Principles of Interaction — Intent

 

“If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem.”
― Richard Bach

 

No one else determines my happiness or sadness.
I am responsible for what I feel and when.
I will not blame anyone else for what I am feeling. I will not surrender my power in that way.
If I react badly to something another person does, that is my responsibility and a gift for it shows me my shadow.
If someone reacts badly to me and they communicate it, it does not mean I have to change. It is my choice. That does not mean I won’t modify my behaviour just that I don’t have to.
No one has to change for me.
I will be open to learning from all.
Since kindness and love brings me and others joy, I will be kind and loving as often as I can.
Curiosity is better than anger always.
Open communication is better than silence.
From time to time I will screw up these practices. I will not beat myself up.

 

Blessings, G

 

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Opening Night of The Theatre of the RoseOpening Night at the Theatre of the Rose by G A Rosenberg

 

Halucinatory Test PatternHallucinatory Test Pattern by G A Rosenberg

 

The Heart of Blame

 

“Once you create a self-justifying storyline, your emotional entrapment within it quadruples.”
― Pema Chodron

 

Funny (or tragic depending how you look at it) the ways we find to justify our lives. Somehow in the last ten years or so, it became the in thing to validate our emotions, usually by attributing their cause to another person.
“I feel hurt because of what you said…or did…or were.”
“It’s my family, they never gave me credit or told me I was pretty and that’s why I always felt so worthless.”
We blame and blame and blame and what we do is get ourselves mired in the mud of our dysfunction.
Yeah I’m guilty of it too. Until one day it hit me that at a certain point in life (I arbitrarily picked 30 tho I believe that it can happen much earlier) you have to say. Yes these factors in my upbringing or my life or my relationship have created these buttons in me but now it is up to me to deal with them. If they remain now, its on me. Since then I have steadily (with periods of slagging off) been working on learning myself and deciding what I want to manifest. Is it easier than it sounds? Not particularly tho it seems that I have lots more energy now that I’ve stopped finding people to blame.
Not only that but once we take on the responsibility of who we are, the easier it becomes to feel compassion towards those in our past. It is an indescribable feeling when you can feel the heart of someone whom you once saw only as a villain, to understand that they were playing out their own scripts and acting from their own pain.
Blessings, G

 

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ZonedZoned by G A Rosenberg

 

Hidden DepthsHidden Depths by G A Rosenberg