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Joy and Sorrow

 

“Life is glorious, but life is also wretched. It is both. Appreciating the gloriousness inspires us, encourages us, cheers us up, gives us a bigger perspective, energizes us. We feel connected. But if that’s all that’s happening, we get arrogant and start to look down on others, and there is a sense of making ourselves a big deal and being really serious about it, wanting it to be like that forever. The gloriousness becomes tinged by craving and addiction. On the other hand, wretchedness–life’s painful aspect–softens us up considerably. Knowing pain is a very important ingredient of being there for another person. When you are feeling a lot of grief, you can look right into somebody’s eyes because you feel you haven’t got anything to lose–you’re just there. The wretchedness humbles us and softens us, but if we were only wretched, we would all just go down the tubes. We’d be so depressed, discouraged, and hopeless that we wouldn’t have enough energy to eat an apple. Gloriousness and wretchedness need each other. One inspires us, the other softens us. They go together.”
― Pema Chödrön

 

Joy gives way to grief which gives way to joy. Even in the hardest life the two seem to balance each other out. That’s not to say that all of our lives are equally hard. I have met very few people living in the roughest situations who didn’t find things to be joyful about. I have also met many living lives of relative ease who find ways of being miserable from time to time. There seems to be a strange balance of relativity there. Tho if we can see them both, our joys and misery as experience and the ability to experience life as joy, what then? Perhaps neither joy nor sorrow (or to use Pema Chödrön’s word wretchedness) need be fixed locations on our map. Perhaps in accepting them as equal spurs on our journey, we can reach new heights of understanding and compassion.
Blessings, G

 

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Wind Currents Over Shadowed BeachWind Currents Over Shadowed Beach by G A Rosenberg

 

Echoes of A Black LotusEchoes Of the Black Lotus by G A Rosenberg

 

The Heart of Blame

 

“Once you create a self-justifying storyline, your emotional entrapment within it quadruples.”
― Pema Chodron

 

Funny (or tragic depending how you look at it) the ways we find to justify our lives. Somehow in the last ten years or so, it became the in thing to validate our emotions, usually by attributing their cause to another person.
“I feel hurt because of what you said…or did…or were.”
“It’s my family, they never gave me credit or told me I was pretty and that’s why I always felt so worthless.”
We blame and blame and blame and what we do is get ourselves mired in the mud of our dysfunction.
Yeah I’m guilty of it too. Until one day it hit me that at a certain point in life (I arbitrarily picked 30 tho I believe that it can happen much earlier) you have to say. Yes these factors in my upbringing or my life or my relationship have created these buttons in me but now it is up to me to deal with them. If they remain now, its on me. Since then I have steadily (with periods of slagging off) been working on learning myself and deciding what I want to manifest. Is it easier than it sounds? Not particularly tho it seems that I have lots more energy now that I’ve stopped finding people to blame.
Not only that but once we take on the responsibility of who we are, the easier it becomes to feel compassion towards those in our past. It is an indescribable feeling when you can feel the heart of someone whom you once saw only as a villain, to understand that they were playing out their own scripts and acting from their own pain.
Blessings, G

 

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ZonedZoned by G A Rosenberg

 

Hidden DepthsHidden Depths by G A Rosenberg

Quote of the Day – July 15 2012

“To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.”
― Pema Chödrön

 

When I was younger I used to move around a lot. I believe the longest I lived anyplace from the time I was 16 when I moved from my mother’s house to my father’s until I was 26 was about eight months and my life after that point took another ten years to settle down. With each move came various amounts of disillusionment, relief, excitement with a bit of fear. Each one increased my awareness to some extent. I threw myself down more rabbit holes than Alice ever dreamed of and came out the other side until I finally learned it was possible to learn from life without a great upheaval in physical circumstances.

Each new insight that we gain has the ability to rock our internal worlds. If we are conscious every time we discover that the universe is more or other than we have been told or believed our universe changes. Since the most we can ever understand of universal truth is a fraction this can happen every day. We are eternal children ever discovering that the universe is bigger than we’ve known. And so our fractal awareness grows.
Blessings, G

 

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Lantern by G A Rosenberg

 

Three of Cups by G A Rosenberg

Quote of the Day – June 19 2012

“People get into a heavy-duty sin and guilt trip, feeling that if things are going wrong, that means that they did something bad and they are being punished. That’s not the idea at all. The idea of karma is that you continually get the teachings that you need to open your heart. To the degree that you didn’t understand in the past how to stop protecting your soft spot, how to stop armoring your heart, you’re given this gift of teachings in the form of your life, to give you everything you need to open further.”
― Pema Chödrön

Wow odd feeling of heaviness tonight. The quote is apt for I feel I should repent of something but not sure of what. Odd tho this shall pass also. The witness as always watches behind the scenes and we shall see where the next steps will take me.  Perhaps there is a need to pull back for a few days and see what may come of it

I’m rather fond of the pictue I did this evening of the girl and the tiger on the beach.  I love the beach at night especially with a campfire. Truly the meeting of the four elements.

Blessings, G

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Nightime Idyll by G A Rosenberg
Night Mandala by G A Rosenberg

Quote of the Day – May 21 2012

“The only reason we don’t open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don’t feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else’s eyes. ”
― Pema Chödrön

Funny, how before reading this tonight, I thought of compassion as something that we have for other people. The way I have always thought of compassion was the quality of putting ourselves into another person’s footsteps, seeing life from the inside of another’s head. Perhaps I need to turn it around and focus for a bit on how it feels to live inside my own, at least as important.

I know its not so much seeing my heart as another’s but seeing another’s as my own. By compassion also not meaning sympathy or pity but being willing to look and be authentically. Perhaps that is a prerequisite to feeling true compassion for another.
Blessings, G

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Lava Spin Mandala by G Rosenberg

Visage of Pisces by G A Rosenberg

Quote of the Day – May 5 2011

“The only reason we don’t open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don’t feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else’s eyes. ”
— Pema Chödrön

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Love’s Path by G A Rosenberg