xx”It’s one of my theories that when people give you advice, they’re really just talking to themselves in the past.”
— Mark Epstein
If it is true that when we give advice to others, we are advising our past selves than I must have a lot to say to the younger mes because I sure seem to give a lot of advice and tho most of it is asked for I have a feeling I don’t have people going away needing more.
Perhaps if I look at what I tell others I can grasp what I feel I needed to hear and maybe discover some steps along the way. I talk to people a lot about not taking their situations so seriously and to find the humour. I also tend to talk a lot about when you’re in the hole, looking at the big picture doesn’t seem to help so much, that its ok to figure out just the next thing you have to do and then do it. Solving anyone’s problems is just too big. Helping someone figure out
just what the next step is is relatively easy.
I am also starting to advise more and more on the value of qualitative conversation. If anything you say to another person in your life seems to cause conflict than wait awhile before you speak. Who needs the conflict?
I can see how all of these things could have helped me in the past and perhaps how they can help me in the future.
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