“You do not even think of your own past as quite real; you dress it up, you gild it or blacken it, censor it, tinker with it… fictionalize it, in a word, and put it away on a shelf – your book, your romanced autobiography. We are all in the flight from the real reality. That is the basic definition of Homo sapiens.”
— John Fowles
“You are led through your lifetime by the inner learning creature, the playful spiritual being that is your real self. Don’t turn away from possible futures before you’re certain you don’t have anything to learn from them.
You’re always free to change your mind and choose a different future, or a different past.”
― Richard Bach
There is very little externally that we cannot change about ourselves. We can change our hair or eye colour. With lifts we can change our height. With a little bit of creative imagining we can and do change our past It’s all in how we choose to remember it. Many of us use our pasts to justify our present. We colour it in hues darker or lighter than they really were so we can say. “This is what has brought me here. This is why I do do things” Yet, we can by choosing to look at things in a different way use our pasts to bring us further than we have come before. We can remember the worst days that we ever had where people treated us badly or we can remember and focus on the best days of our lives and the times we were treated well and accept that as our birthright. We all already slant our pasts. Why not slant it in a way that works for us?
“The secret to change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”
We keep trying to attack the qualities and habbits in our lives both external and internal that don’t work. We want to quit smoking or get rid of this or that and make our lives right by focusing on our problems. Imagine instead if we took a different tack. Imagine what you would like your life to look like. Who would you be? What qualities would you have? Who would be there with you? What would you be doing? In other words imagine your perfect life then start building towards it. Make the picture happen. In this way, the focus changes from a problem-cantered approach to a goal oriented solution approach. In the long run, I have learned that this works a lot better.
“What could I say to you that would be of value, except that perhaps you seek too much, that as a result of your seeking you cannot find.”
― Hermann Hesse
Looking too hard for answers.
Lost in the trees
with no forest in sight.
Trying to hard for achievement
looking to make myself right.
I waste so much time on becoming
that I forget just how to be.
Losing myself in the seeking
Could I find myself in the me
Letting it all go
Letting it all flow
Hitting that zero sport
Untying the frayed knot
Throwing my hands up in the air
Caring so much that I don’t care
Reaching that point of surrender
My spirt now can be rendered
— G A Rosenberg
“Gather out of star-dust,
And splinters of hail,
One handful of dream-dust,
Not for sale.”
― Langston Hughes
I wish you dreams no one could hope to touch
except to aid fulfilment
I wish you beautiful visions
and appreciation of new landscapes.
May you find greater balance and peace
than you have felt before
and May love always find you
whether or not you have searched.
— G A Rosenberg
“Sometimes you simply need to drift aimlessly, in order to reach the destination of aim.”
― Lionel Suggs
On a night when the rain comes down
and the stars remain silent
I let my mind drift
reflecting on my soul’s colours
and the stories I have yet to write.
There is a greyness to the moment
but I don’t seem to mind.
Not every second can be filled with purpose
and nothing pressing before the morrow’s sun
I can think of loved ones’ smiles
or the needs of the many
and I will…everything in time
yet for now I will wander
until the night calls me home.
— G A Rosenberg